Every job seeker, no matter how talented and experienced, has received at least one dreaded rejection letter in his or her career. And, no matter how talented and experienced the job seeker, rejection always brings up deep seated insecurities and that inevitable question: "Why?"
Even though it is a drag to be rejected by a potential employer the key to landing a job is not to dwell on missed opportunities and just keep focusing on possibilities. Nearly every time I have ever been rejected after interviewing for a job, I later discovered information that made me realize that the rejection was a blessing in disguise.

For example, I once interviewed with one of the world's largest banks for what I thought was a dream opportunity. I was scheduled to fly back for a final round of interviews that should have culminated in an offer when I got a call from the HR department informing me that they were not going to fill the job. I was devastated. But then a couple of weeks later I found out that the bank was restructuring and laying off thousands of employees including the entire department with which I had been interviewing. Whew. I guess I dodged a bullet!

If you don't have a job and are getting rejection letters after interviewing, the process can be both scary and depressing. Do not let yourself get so down on yourself or depressed that your interview skills suffer. Each job interview has to be a whole new world of positive thinking. Don't reflect on past losses, failures, or rejections when preparing for an interview. Prepare and put a positive spin on everything that you discuss with your interviewers. Positive thinking will get you far in interviews.

After each interview sit down and make a list of everything you thought went well and the things that you think you could have improved upon. Then, if you don't get the job at least you will have given yourself some feedback that you can use to improve your interview skills the next time. Sometimes interviewers will tell you why you didn't get the job but you can't count on that...you have to create your own "after action review" in order to improve your skills.

Don't focus on rejection. Treat your job search like a sales job. You are selling product "You Inc." to a potential employer. Don't focus on the sales you lose but try to learn from them in order to improve your pitch until you close a deal.

Keep in mind that many times the jobs you don't get are blessings in disguise even though you may not think so at the time. Don't think "what's wrong with me?" when you are rejected for a job because, in truth, there may not be anything wrong with your interview skills or your ability to do the job -- it may be that you and the company aren't a good fit for each other. And that is nothing to get depressed about.